It is costly and yes, if I could, I would do it for nothing! But am very aware of the financial strain it can have having experienced this with my own mother I just wondered if there was any way one could get these manufacturers to discount these items for those with dementia? Any suggestions would be welcome. I look forward to hearing from you all. My senior seems to be very attracted to me, talks about his inappropriate thoughts often, I told him that I was very happily married and asked him to keep his thoughts to himself, also let him know, kindly that he keeps his hands off of certain parts of my body.
I try to Change the subject, or offer up something to do to get his mind on something else. I remind him how beautiful and kind his wife is. Having a client say inappropriate things is understandably uncomfortable. My mother was able to care for herself petty well despite physical issues.
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She said she will disinherit us. I know part of it is fear but it is so upsetting to hear this. She is almost 92 women live long lives in our family.
It may take some time for her to adjust. Does your dad have a dementia diagnosis? In terms of your hired caregiver, it sounds like it might be helpful to find someone who communicates in a way that helps you as well as providing great care for your dad, rather than causing more stress by behaving in that manner when speaking to you. Here are some articles that may be helpful: — How Is Dementia Diagnosed? As a live in carer… reading your post, it certainly sounds like you need to change carers.
Her yelling at you is totally unacceptable behaviour! One has to have empathy, and be of a calm disposition. Daily Caring are spot on with regard to your dad being diagnosed, and if necessary, they may well be able to assist with prescribing something to calm him. I am not a believer of clients being over medicated, but there are times when a bit of help in this area, would be both beneficial for your dad, you and the care giver. I sincerely hope you manage to resolve this soon, as it is not a good place for you to be in and important that you make peace with the situation… perhaps you could reach out and talk with someone?
They can be very supportive and you will find others in a similar position that you are able to share your concerns with. It sounds a lovely, quiet world you live in. Can we trade? My mom is literally talking about the house which she picked out and has lived in for 26 years and geography. In some ways she is highly articulate. Not to mention she refuses, point blank, to leaved the house.
If I have help to get her out, she comments all the way through her neighborhood about how she used to live here. She expects that wherever home is, everything will be exactly as it is, with her caregiver, yard, doctors, etc. SHe can remember her life over those 26 years, but not the house. Nothing calms her down, and she can;t tell me anything about this other house she thinks she lives in.
Or the 2 older sisters I magically acquired a year ago. The mix of logic and lala as surreal. What to do?
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It sounds like you may need to experiment with different responses and distractions before you find what works well to calm her or help her let go of the idea. Remember that she lives in a different reality than you do.
Who is at the other house? Also the house she is remembering may be a childhood house in a different state.
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Her sisters live in the state she grew up in miles away , but she asks where they are as if they should be in the house with her. Find something she likes to talk about — her mom, dad, siblings, childhood, accomplishments, etc. Reassure her that you love her and only want the best for her. My mother tells us every day several times that she wants to go home even though she is home after a few weeks in hospital , in the house where she has lived for 40 years. When I ask where home is, she recites her childhood address. Problem is her childhood was extremely unhappy, as her father was violent towards her mother.
Hopefully some of the distraction and redirection suggestions in the article above will also be helpful.
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Maybe all she wants is her Mommie. Can anyone tell me how to address the problem with meds. So I gave her her IBUPROFEN back in her room but refused to let her keep her muscle relaxer and other meds back but assured her someone was always here to bring her one as it was needed. I explain the paramedics that came to check on her. Said so.
What is my responsibility lawfully and personally right for her. This is definitely a tough situation, we see so many people with dementia who try their best to hold on to what they used to be able to do safely and easily because of the fear of losing it. Then, you can keep her real medications and give them to her when the time is right. You may also be able to use her impairment with short term memory to your advantage.
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Keep the interaction pleasant and tell her just this one time that you need to give her this one pill which is her regular medication because the doctor called and asked you to. It may take some creative thinking and patient experimentation before you find something that works. Sorry I think they do know where there home was in t here past and being there memory are stuck in past so is there home some things seem to comfort them looking at old pictures of fam I ly ad pets a soft blanket the lights dim soft music old movies petting a cat or dog sitting in the sun looking at what ever comes bees flowers feeling the breeze I think we worry to much about there step backs in there minds even so-called normal people do this we have to enjoy what they enjoy and stop slapping them in the face with our reality let them enjoy there lives in there own way.
Great tips to help them enjoy their current reality and keep them feeling secure and comfortable while reminiscing. My mom has passed, but this happened frequently. I tried the distraction techniques, she was in fact in her home — and I had moved in to take care of her. Mostly I saw that she was sad when she was saying this. And comforting was definitely the best approach. A wonderful caretaker shared this advice with me, and it did work.
As they want to know how i do in my first semester back to school. My writing class is very creative, the teacher told us to write our journey, each day in the classroom, she has 10 questions for us and let us choose one of them to write a journey. Guess what? I surprised, two of them said they want the LORD to take them home. We had a good one hour sharing in that moment as they can participate with my homework to share about their journey. I work at nursing home as an activity aide, and deals with dementia elderly and wheel chair elderly.
My sister and I both are dealing with this exact issue right now where our 82 yr old mom , was in an ALF got sick and spent 2 wks in the hosp from there another two weeks in a SNF for therapy , while at the hosp we were told by the ALF that she was living at for the last 3 months , that she can not come back because she required oxygen and they do not have accommodations for oxygen! Anyway just yesterday she went to 10 bed all female ALF… and did not want to stay she kept saying her mother would be worried , that she had some laundry to do etc… after much reassurance ,we had to make a sneaky get away … they called my sister and told her she was okay that she had gotten her nails polished..
We can not care for her at home. It sounds like the moves to the hospital and to the new ALF may have been disorienting. Dementia symptoms can definitely worsen after trauma or a move because she may be feeling scared or confused.